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Month: August 2016

Silence is not always golden

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It’s amazing how quickly something exciting and fun can change in an instant.

I went to the airport to pick up my daughter and her husband. I love airports so that is always fun anyway. And picking up my daughter and her husband was even more fun. And as I waited in the security line most of the people ahead of me had Emirates tags which meant they were headed for Dubai. I just loved seeing all those Emirates tags knowing one day I would be back to my beloved Middle East.

So it was all good.

The security conveyer belt had been halted so we kind of got backed up. In front of me was an adorable Indian family with two adorable children who were trying to put their own bags on the conveyer belt and they were kind of crowded around as the family stayed together. I admired them and the adorable daughter who the mother said was in her gold princess gown even though they were about to have a 14 hour flight. She wanted to wear her princess gown. She looked adorable and you could see she loved wearing it.

So it was such a happy and wonderful time.

And then one comment totally changed my inner emotions.

Behind me an older couple said (about me and the family in front of me) ‘People keep pushing in the line and that’s not right.’ And then the lady put her carry on bag behind the family’s baggage so I had no room to put my handbag on the conveyer belt. When I put it there she tried to push her luggage into my handbag.

This made me so angry and it changed my internal thinking for the rest of the time at the airport. There was a small flicker of being pissed off as I excitedly waited to meet my daughter and her husband.

So what was that about? Why did it make me so angry? Why could I just not let it go?

And then I realised something. I think it was a lesson I needed to learn. Others would have just dismissed the comment. But you see, I think God/Universe was teaching me something. And that is that I need to speak up more. State my case. And not just be silent to keep the peace.

Now of course this is not about every little thing that happens.

Most things I do just let go. And most of the time I am actually a genuine encourager of others and love doing it.

But tonight it was a different lesson. It was about all those times I just let people get away with judgements that aren’t correct.

Again, this is not an always thing.

Most times I just let things go, but tonight it was a lesson.

I realised I should have said to them (because it made me so angry and they were actually the ones pushing) ‘We have all been in this line from the beginning and you are the one who pushed in so I could not put my bag on.’

Some of you may think ‘Gee Linda, you are so petty.’ But I think it was God/Universe telling me at times I needed to speak up more and respect what I was doing. It was a stupid scenario in some ways, but for me it was a lesson to me to remember to be more assertive (politely but direct) so people know where I stand in some situations.

What about you? What are some of the lessons you learn in the most simple situations that others don’t even give a second thought to. But you know somehow you are being given a lesson to help you grow more and step more into who you really are.

Be true to yourself. Listen to those nudges. And take on board those lessons. Even if everyone else says ‘Really? You find that frustrating?’ Because for you, it is an opportunity to take one step further to the real you.

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What filter do you use for your world?

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Recently I was at a pot luck dinner. The conversation at the table was great. I got to know those around me a bit more and found their lives so interesting.

We had lots of laughs and it was such a great example of participating in a great local community.

We all saw life through a very positive filter -not stupid positive like ‘oh the house is burning down but it is warm’ kind of positive- but one that focuses first on what is working and what is good.

And what we focus on expands so often if we look first to what is working we find some of the negative stuff just fades and we find more and more to be grateful for.

Good stuff, right?

In the middle of the meal, one person moved to be in our conversation and my oh my, what a black filter he had on life.

He complained about the GFC. How awful it was and how it had been brewing for years to return. And how bad was that going to be!

Oh and those dangerous neighbourhoods in Melbourne where he lived for 8 years were awful. He made sure he did not drive through those areas day or night.

And Adelaide was not much different. Depressed economy and lots of people struggling and the same in Melbourne. Not good places to live.

WHAT? Really?

Now all those facts may be true, but by focussing on them, you could feel the negative energy consume our table.

It’s not that we dismiss the negative things but we first look at what is good, what is working and enjoy all those things first. This is not some hocus pocus. We are energy and surrounded by energy so what our thoughts and emotions regularly go out as is what we attract back to us.

Yes, there are issues.

Yes there are problems.

And yes there are some people in very difficult situations that we need to help if we can.

But using a regular filter of negativity just takes ‘pictures’ of negative stuff and the more we use that negative filter the more we take more of those photos and spread more negative energy to our lives and others. How’s that helping anyone?

If we have a filter that looks at the strengths and the good things first, we find we get more and more pictures of that which keeps things in perspective.

As we have that mindset we are in a much better position to help people who are in tough situations. While also helping ourselves to get out of challenging situations by first seeing all that is good around us and then working on how to move beyond the challenges.

So what filter do you look through your world with?

Do you start with what is good or do you just always see the negative and become a serial complainer?

Either way is contagious so what filter do you want to have on in your life?

 

 

 

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