Ever regret not listening to your gut?
You have a passing thought of an idea or action you could take.
Or you hear yourself say, ‘Someone should create a product or service that fills this gap.’ And then wonder if you could be that someone.
And there you stand at the crossroad.
One voice says ‘Give it a go, you’ll never know unless you try.’
And then the other voice interrupts the first voice with:
Are you kidding?
You really need to think that through.
Get more training.
It’s gotta be perfect before you’d release it to the world.
It could take months or years to get it right.
Well, in recent times, I’ve recognized that second voice as my subconscious trying to keep me safe by playing small and sticking to what I’ve always done or known to be a sure thing.
And it feeds nicely into three bad habits of mine:
All or nothing thinking-it’s got to be fully planned and perfect before I put it out there. Make one mistake and scrap the whole thing and start over. Similar to eating one chocolate chip cookie and then finishing the whole pack because I felt I blew my eating plan by that one cookie so I may as well write off the rest of the day. Flawed logic and self sabotage rolled into one!
Fear-oh this has so many faces. What if I fail? What will people think? Will people disapprove? Live a vanilla life and you dodge those fears and are destined to mediocrity. Seize the moment and you’ll find most fears were unfounded and the fears that weren’t are well outstripped by the passion and excitement of taking the next step. The naysayers will drop off and create room for new raving fans.
Overthinking– this is a combination of the other two. Thinking about all the things that could go wrong. Or thinking about every finite detail that would have to be worked out before you proceed. Both mindsets are a fast track to doing nothing. Sometimes followed by that painful regret of watching someone else who had the courage to act on the very idea you had enjoy great success and support as they followed it through.
Don’t fall into my three mindset traps!
Put yourself out there.
Ask for help.
Be open to a change of direction and be glad you got out there on the court to play the game-even if you are ‘coached’ to change your game plan.
And be prepared for some pleasant surprises!