Recently I was at a pot luck dinner. The conversation at the table was great. I got to know those around me a bit more and found their lives so interesting.
We had lots of laughs and it was such a great example of participating in a great local community.
We all saw life through a very positive filter -not stupid positive like ‘oh the house is burning down but it is warm’ kind of positive- but one that focuses first on what is working and what is good.
And what we focus on expands so often if we look first to what is working we find some of the negative stuff just fades and we find more and more to be grateful for.
Good stuff, right?
In the middle of the meal, one person moved to be in our conversation and my oh my, what a black filter he had on life.
He complained about the GFC. How awful it was and how it had been brewing for years to return. And how bad was that going to be!
Oh and those dangerous neighbourhoods in Melbourne where he lived for 8 years were awful. He made sure he did not drive through those areas day or night.
And Adelaide was not much different. Depressed economy and lots of people struggling and the same in Melbourne. Not good places to live.
Now all those facts may be true, but by focussing on them, you could feel the negative energy consume our table.
It’s not that we dismiss the negative things but we first look at what is good, what is working and enjoy all those things first. This is not some hocus pocus. We are energy and surrounded by energy so what our thoughts and emotions regularly go out as is what we attract back to us.
Yes, there are issues.
Yes there are problems.
And yes there are some people in very difficult situations that we need to help if we can.
But using a regular filter of negativity just takes ‘pictures’ of negative stuff and the more we use that negative filter the more we take more of those photos and spread more negative energy to our lives and others. How’s that helping anyone?
If we have a filter that looks at the strengths and the good things first, we find we get more and more pictures of that which keeps things in perspective.
As we have that mindset we are in a much better position to help people who are in tough situations. While also helping ourselves to get out of challenging situations by first seeing all that is good around us and then working on how to move beyond the challenges.
So what filter do you look through your world with?
Do you start with what is good or do you just always see the negative and become a serial complainer?
Either way is contagious so what filter do you want to have on in your life?